Dear friends,
as the holiday season approaches, I find myself reflecting on my own journey with family, love, and the beauty of imperfection.
Growing up, I often felt like an outsider in my own home. With differences in opinions, values, and ways of expressing love, it sometimes seemed like my family and I were living in separate worlds. I still do, sometimes.
There are unspoken tensions, unresolved issues, and a shared history that often feels heavy.
Every holiday, I look forward to our gatherings, but a part of me always approached them with apprehension.
Would the old resentments resurface?
Would the conversations be filled with awkward silences and lingering misunderstandings?
Yet, despite these uncertainties, I cherished the moments we spent together.
When old grievances and misunderstandings begins to surface it can feel as the holiday spirit is slipping away.
During the years, (and during loads of self reflection and therapy!) I noticed something profound.
Each person expresses their love in their own way—whether it is their passion for justice, their desire for change, or their need to be heard.
I realised that love can be expressed even in disagreement.
My family’s love wasn’t always wrapped in perfect bows or flowery words; sometimes, it came through the heat of debate and the
of differing opinions. This has always been a reminder that we care deeply about each other, even when we don't see eye to eye.
I found myself reflecting a lot on how important it is to accept one another, differences and all.
I begin to appreciate my family for who they were, understanding that our disagreements don not diminish our love but rather highlighted our individuality.
I know many people will relate to this, cos there is no such thing as a perfect family or a perfect relationship.
Here are some heartfelt reminders to help you navigate the holidays with love and acceptance:
1. Acknowledge the Differences:
Understand that every family has its unique dynamics. Recognise and appreciate the ways in which your loved ones express their love, even if they don’t align with your expectations.
2. Open Up the Conversation:
If there are unresolved issues from the past, consider gently addressing them or reach out to a dear friend to talk about it. Having open conversations can pave the way for healing and understanding, helping to release the weight of old grudges.
3. Focus on the Joy of Togetherness:
Amidst the disagreements, cherish the moments of connection. Whether it’s sharing a laugh, reminiscing about old times, or simply enjoying a meal together, these moments can strengthen your bond.
4. Practice Acceptance:
Embrace your family’s quirks and idiosyncrasies. Accepting each other as you are can create a safe space where love can flourish, no matter how imperfectly it’s expressed.
5. Create New Traditions:
Start meaningful traditions that celebrate your family’s unique dynamics. Whether it’s a game night, a gratitude circle, or a shared project, these activities can foster connection and joy.
6. Reflect on the Love You Share:
Take a moment to reflect on the love that exists within your family, even if it’s not always expressed perfectly. Gratitude for those moments can transform your perspective and deepen your appreciation.
Wishing you a season filled with acceptance, understanding, and the warmth of your beautifully imperfect family,
Gigi x
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